Dilemmas of Difference

SUMMARY

This paper outlines a particular conceptual framework or working tool which individuals, couples and couples therapists have found useful in exploring the meaning of love and separateness, increasing the opportunities for love in couples relationships and reducing the potential for war in the intimacy zone. Three categories of difference between partners are outlined as an example both of specific couples therapy work in the microcosm, and of the relationships of nations in the macrocosm.