Pathological nurturance: The root of marital discord

Abstract

During the process of Adlerian Family Education, a great deal of attention is given to understanding the dynamics of the family constellation, especially sibling ordinal position and family atmosphere. The first step in interviewing a “teaching-demonstration” family is to diagram the family constellation and make some tentative guesses regarding how the children in the family have “found their place,” gained a sense of belonging, and exhibited possible adjustment problems or misbehavior. Audience participants are encouraged to share in this stochastic process based upon knowledge gained in observing previous family education sessions. Then the parents being interviewed either confirm or revise the guesses presented. At this point the parents generally specify their primary concerns, which typically involve the “misbehavior” of their “problem child.” In helping parents understand children and their misbehavior, the family educators quickly point out that it is necessary for them to understand the whole context of the family and that the Family Education Center program is designed to improve not only the “identified problem” child but the relationships between all members of the family (Dreikurs, et al., 1959, p. 23).