The emotional dynamics of funeral services

This paper explores how funerals are often restricted to a cognitive level and become exercises in denial based consolation. Clergy are responsible for addressing the emotional needs of the people gathered for the funeral. The issue is not whether or not we intervene buthow we intervene. Specific dynamics and opportunities in the family are examined and varied needs of other mourners are considered. The funeral is an intervention in the grief process. The funeral service has three essential functions. First, it is a proclamation of our faith. Secondly, the service speaks to the emotional needs of the grieving. Finally, the service is a recognition and celebration of the person's life.Dr. Lageman is a Fellow at the American Association of Pastoral Counselors and a Clinical Member of AAMFT.Valuable assistance in preparing this article was received from my colleague, Anne Nelson.