The Observant Jewish Victim of Spouse Abuse: Dynamics and Countertransference Issues

This article provides an overview of the dynamics of wife abuse, including its definition, the victim's tendency towards self blame, and the forces keeping her in the relationship. Socio-cultural and practical concerns relevant to the Orthodox victim are specifically examined. These include stigma of divorce, Rabbinic involvement, difficulties with obtaining the Get, and reluctance to seek shelter away from the community. Common countertransference issues that clinicians may struggle with when working with women who are abused are discussed, for example feeling pressured to save the marriage, frustration with resistance, and/or rescue fantasies. The article also offers implications for practice with this very complex population.