Hunger Pangs: Transference and Countertransference in the Treatment of Foster Children

In working with children, clinicians are often confronted with physical as well as psychological hunger—demands for real along with symbolic feeding. Foster children, who have suffered actual neglect and deprivation, often stir powerful and primitive feelings about the place and importance of the real and the symbolic in psychotherapy. These parentless children explicitly and implicitly announce that they need a family, not a therapist. In response, the therapist, particularly the young and inexperienced clinician, may devalue the therapeutic relationship and unconsciously move into a parental role, feeling that without the protection of a family the child will inevitably fall into the enormous emotional, economic, and systemic cracks in the world of foster care. Clinical material illustrates these points.