我爱我的家

家是人们熟悉的一个字眼,熟悉的一个地方。家究竟是什么?不同的人对家的理解也不同,有人说家是人的栖身之所,休养身心的地方,是避风的港湾;有人说家是丈夫的王国,妻子的世界,孩子的乐园;有人说家是……家在人的心里概念是不尽相同的,但相同的是家对每个人都是重要的,因为她是人一生离不开的地方。人可以没有钱、没有权、没有势、没有一切,但不能没有家。家既是重要的,每个人都会爱自己的家,我也一样。     

耶和华是我的牧者

经文:诗23篇 诗篇共有150篇,第23篇是很宝贵的一篇,也是为人喜爱诵读的一篇,素有"诗篇中之珍珠"的美称。大卫年轻时是牧羊的,他很爱他的羊群。他从他牧养羊群,看守羊群的经验而想到主耶和华怎样眷顾他的子民。他以耶和华为牧者,以信徒为羊群来表达他对耶和华这位大牧人的无限喜悦和信任,道出了一切亲尝过神恩之人的心声,使人能从中得到生命的力量和战胜困难的勇气。 本诗的第一句话就说明了"耶和华是我的牧者"。因此羊群所需要的一切,当然一无所缺。无论我们要什么,他都能按着"我是"供给我们。只要我们有了耶和华为牧者,我们生活中的一切都不成问题。     

我所认识的佛教——谨以此文献给天下父母

文化大革命以后,宗教卷土重来的现象,专家、学者们有非常确切的描述:"文化大革命时期,宗教几乎被扫地出门,但随着非常时期的结     

My role is my castle — The appeal of family roles after experiencing social exclusion

The present research investigated whether perceived social exclusion would lead women to embrace the social group of the family (and its traditional gender roles). In two studies, it was found that in comparison to a social inclusion manipulation, a social exclusion manipulation caused women to report significantly more positive inclinations towards traditional, gendered work allocations (Studies 1 and 2). Moreover, seeking meaning in life mediated the relationship between social exclusion and the perceived attractiveness of the roles of mother and housewife (Study 2). In a third study, adherence to family-related concepts was examined in both socially excluded and included men, but no difference was found between the two groups. It thus appears that social exclusion does not enhance the attractiveness of familial relationships for men. The theoretical and practical implications of these findings are discussed.     

你的话是我脚前的灯是我路上的光——呼召与奉献

旧约时代,有一个人名叫阿摩司,他只不过是个牧羊的,不是先知,也不是先知的门徒。但主的呼召临到他时,他就撇下羊群,远离自己的家乡,来到北国以色列,宣告神的话语,成为先知(摩7:14-15)。还有一人名叫大卫,是一个在旷野牧羊的人,主的呼召临到他,他就不再牧放羊群,被膏立为以色列的君王,牧养上帝的百姓(撇下8:7)。主的呼召临到阿摩司,是为了让他做先知,宣告上帝的话语。主的呼召临到大卫,乃是膏立他为君王,让他治理国家。服侍以色列民。阿摩司和大卫都接受主的呼召,却一个奉献做先知,一个奉献做君王。并没有都去做先知,也没有都去作君王,但主的旨意却成就在两个人的身上。可见,主呼召我们,乃是要在我们身上成就他的旨意。     

Hot as hell! The self-conscious nature of action regrets

Gilovich, Medvec, and Kahneman (1998) have shown that real-life regrets for actions and inactions correspond to different emotional states. When people regret something they have done they experience painful “hot” emotions such as disgust or guilt, whereas when the regret is about a failure to act they rather experience wistful emotions. In four questionnaire studies, we have tested the hypothesis that regrettable actions elicit a particular subcategory of these hot emotions: the self-conscious emotions (i.e., guilt, shame, embarrassment, remorse, and anger toward oneself). These studies used different methodologies and all converged to show that self-conscious emotions were the only hot emotions to be systematically greater for action regrets than for inaction regrets. A similar pattern was observed for judgments of responsibility and morality. We emphasize the theoretical and methodological implications of these results in the discussion.     

Implementation intentions, perfectionism, and goal progress: perhaps the road to hell is paved with good intentions

Two studies explored whether perfectionism moderates the impact of implementation intentions on goal progress. Study 1 used an implementation intention manipulation to examine the effects of these plans in interaction with perfectionism on the progress of New Year's resolutions. Study 2 added a repeated implementation intention condition and monitored affect and monthly goal progress. The results of both studies revealed a significant backfire effect of the implementation intentions on goal progress for participants high on a particular dimension of perfectionism (socially prescribed perfectionism). These perfectionists reported doing significantly worse at reaching their personal goals when they were asked to formulate implementation intentions than when they completed a control exercise. There also was evidence that implementation planning aroused negative affect for socially prescribed perfectionists. These results are the first to suggest that implementation planning may be contra-indicated for individuals with self-critical tendencies.     

The other other: when the exotic other subjugates the familiar other

In this paper, the theme of the other will be examined and it will be argued that it is important to differentiate between two distinct types of other--the 'exotic' other which is distant and very different from the subject, and the 'familiar' other which is closer to the subject. The dynamic relationship between these two others will be investigated, and emphasis will be given to the process through which the exotic other tends to subjugate the familiar other. This relationship will then be discussed in its various applied forms, in the contexts of clinical practice and socio-political dimensions. In particular, a new reading of Jung's approach to the 'primitive' will be developed, based on the subjugation of the 'familiar' other by the 'exotic' other. A similar line of investigation will be followed to examine the concept of psychological trauma. In addition, Freud's 'narcissism of minor differences' and Bion's distinction between 'narcissism' and 'socialism' will be considered in the light of this differentiation between these two others.     

Time is on my side: optimism in intertemporal choice

The present research examines the role of optimism on time preferences for both losses and gains. It is argued that optimism has asymmetric effects on time preferences for gains versus losses: one reason why decision makers prefer immediate gains is because they are optimistic that these gains will be followed by additional gains in future. In contrast, decision makers prefer to delay losses because they are optimistic that losses are avoidable in the future. Optimism about outcomes affects time preferences for both gains and losses, such that low optimism reduces the discount rates while increased optimism is associated with higher discount rates. This prediction was supported in two different domains: monetary outcomes (Study 1), and health (Study 2). Implications of these results for both research practice and time preferences in the real world are discussed.     

My heart is on my tongue: the untranslated self in a translated world

Abstract: The South African Truth and Reconciliation Commission (TRC) was the first body to provide translation in all the languages of the country, setting people free from groping around with distorted tongues, unable to see, talk or hear one another … After three centuries of silence South Africans could daily hear the black voice talking and being translated; for the first time white South Africans could hear and listen. Through translation we could access our deepest emotions and feelings. But among the two thousand testimonies there were some that were incomprehensible, that confirmed every racial stereotype built up over many years of apartheid. What does one do with these ‘untranslatable’ narratives? This paper looks at one TRC testimony and one Bushmen story, both of them translated from indigenous languages and both posing enormous moral dilemmas. Read in a particular way, the Bushmen story seems to say that they had no sense of responsibility. I will look at the story in its cultural context as revealed through translation to see if another conclusion is possible. In the TRC testimony, I and two colleagues looked at the slippages between the original Xhosa testimony and the interpreted version and explore the consequences thereof. I want to make the point that a narrative can be experienced as discriminatory and ethically problematic when read through a particular, in this case a western, perspective. But the moment there is an attempt to interpret the narrative via its embeddedness in an indigenous worldview, it becomes breathtakingly ethical, fair and logical.     

There is a fire burning in my heart: The role of causal attribution in affect transfer

The role of causal attribution in affect transfer of primes was addressed by examining the consequences of explicit evaluation of primes within the framework of the affect misattribution procedure (AMP; Payne, Cheng, Govorun, & Stewart, 2005). We reasoned that affect transfer occurs when primed affect remains diffuse and not bound to a specific object, hence capable of freely colouring subsequent evaluations of ambiguous objects. Accordingly, we propose that when people explicitly evaluate the prime, affect is clearly bound to the prime and becomes less capable of influencing subsequent judgements. Supporting this notion, affect transfer in the AMP was observed when participants ignored the primes, thereby keeping the primed affect relatively unbound. However, this effect disappeared when participants explicitly evaluated the primes before target stimuli were presented. Implications of these findings in determining how and when affect arising from one object carries over to another is discussed.