Introduction

SUMMARY

A brief discussion of balance in family systems and various forms of attachment between couples observed by Virginia Satir; “Six Ways of Making ‘Us.’” Illustrations are included.     

Experiential Learning

SUMMARY

The following article is about three things: my impressions of Virginia Satir's work, my personal experience of her, and the profound connection between the work of Virginia Satir and Dr. Eugene T. Gendlin's Focusing work.

My attraction to both of these great teachers is not surprising. They both share a type of wisdom which in metaphysics is often described as “intelligence lovingly applied.”

In this article I hope to convey what I see as an organic and compatible overlap between Satir and Gendlin which will hopefully be useful to the readers of this publication.     

Family Reconstruction

SUMMARY

The author claims that a process developed by Virginia Satir and called “Family Reconstruction” by her, is the epitome of her contribution to the field of therapy. This article describes the process, its goals and theory, the conditions necessary for an effective therapeutic breakthrough. How this therapeutic process can be powerfully effective in healing couple's relationships is shown. In a final note, Nerin suggests that Satir's model not be dubbed “communication theory,” but called “eco-psychological.”     

BOOK REVIEWS

ABSTRACT

Virginia Satir—The Patterns of Her Magic. Steve Andreas. Palo Alto, California: Science and Behavior Books, Inc., 1991. 172 pages. $12.95 paperback. Reviewed by Wray Pascoe.

The Satir Model. Virginia Satir, John Banmen, Jane Gerber, Maria Gomori. Palo Alto, California: Science and Behavior Books, Palo Alto, 1991. 379 pages. Reviewed by Wray Pascoe.     

Some Recollections of Virginia Satir

SUMMARY

The following excerpts are taken from several hours of conversation with Virginia Satir in which Virginia shares her personal reminiscences of herdevelopment as a therapist and the intellectual environment that stimulated some of her most creative work. She reflects on her association with Gregory Bateson and other prominent theorists in the field. In deceptively concise language, she puts forth her own seminal ideas on the complex nature of change and the processes that underlie family therapy and group therapy.     

The Expression of Femininity in the Male

SUMMARY

This article by Virginia Prince, writing as Virginia Bruce, was first published in The Journal of Sex Research, vol. 3, no. 2, 1967, pp. 129–139. Prince distinguishes sex from gender. Sex is the biological division we share with other animals. Gender-the division of masculine and feminine-is a human invention. Socialisation entails children being pushed into one or other gender direction and the suppression of characteristics of the “opposite” gender. Transvestism is the expression in males of suppressed femininity. The “true transvestite” is a “FemmePersonator” who “personates,” that is, makes a real person out of and brings to life his feminine self. Questionnaire data is used to reject ideas that true transvestism is a sexual deviation, and true transvestites are psychiatrically disturbed.     

Peoplemaking

SUMMARY

Virginia Satir recognized self esteem as the culmination of identity development within a nurturing and validating environment. The proposition of this author is that the shame-based identity, on the opposite end of a continuum from self esteem, is the culmination of identity development within an invalidating and contemptuous environment. The perspective presented here is generic and comprehensive, using (he established work of Satir on self esteem and more recent work by other published authors on the subject of shame. The development of the shame-based identity as well as the dynamics of the shame-based family system will be presented and explored.     

Heinz Kohut and Virginia Satir: Strange bedfellows?

Both Heinz Kohut, the psychoanalyst, and Virginia Satir, the family therapist, are products of the humanistic influence in psychology that developed after World War II. Both have had an important influence on the practice of psychotherapy. Kohut expanded the scope of psychoanalysis so that more different kinds of people could be treated by psychoanalysis than had been possible heretofore, while Satir taught a whole generation of therapists what it means to be experience-near to their clients. This paper deals with some of the similarities and differences in their work.This paper was prepared at the invitation of John Banmen and Virginia Satir for inclusion in their forthcoming book entitledApplications of Virginia Satir's Theories and Practice of Family Therapy and was submitted to this journal with their courteous agreement.     

The Tao of Communication and the Constancy of Change

SUMMARY

Lao Tsu and Virginia Satir seemed to have spoken a common language when it came to speaking about the art of knowing, being and doing. It is as if they sang from the same sheet of music. This article combines their melodies, intensifying the power of each's message. In a back and forth, fugue-like dialogue between Lao Tsu and Satir, the author explicates her understanding of the sacred work of change and actualization in a six part invention; the Six A'S.     

Enhancing the Creative Process in Couple Therapy

ABSTRACT

This paper reviews the literature as it relates to psychotherapy and creativity. The focus is on the creative process and the role of the therapist as “artist” in the practice of couple therapy. The theory on which the paper is based in problem-centered with influences from the writing of Satir, humanistic psychology and psychodynamic psychotherapy. The paper attempts to offer suggestions as to how therapists might enhance their innate creative ability when working with couples.     

“Working with Couples: Satir and the Tao,”

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One of Virginia Satir's greatest gifts to the world was the use of herself as an instrument of healing. By daring to use all of her-self-body, mind and spirit-the connections Virginia made with others were warm and real. Besides being authentically caring, Satir worked out of a pluralistic and comprehensive theoretical base to individualize each intervention. By co-creating strong, trusting relationships she inspirited others with her own life-force energy, and enabled them to become more fully human. Able to put her own ego needs aside, Virginia modeled how to join common sense with a sense of high purpose.     

Virginia Satir's Triad Theory for Couples Therapy

SUMMARY

Virginia Satir's understanding of the fundamental building block of all human relationships, the triad, surpassed that of her colleagues. She went beyond their themes of conflict, opposition and pathology to emphasize the positive, constructive and nurturing potential of every human triadic interaction. Couples therapy is a triad and the author focuses on this specific context to illustrate some of the rich and varied uses of Satir s theory of triads.     

The Tao of Virginia Satir

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This article looks at the Tao of Virginia Satir which is exemplified by her apparent effortless manner of facilitating change with respect and congruence. She worked with the ‘rejects’ of the psychiatric community and was successfully able to make changes to their lives by contacting their inner ‘spirit’ while loving them. Her apparently simple and respectful Tao of communication and ability to contact the life force accounted in part for the powerful transformations she made with individuals and large systems.     

The Dying Process of a Conscious Woman—Virginia Satir

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This article relates the author's experience with Virginia Satir in the last eight days of her life. The detail of incidents and interactions is most revealing of Virginia's ability to deal with such a poignant time in her own life in an open, focused manner and in a process like she taught others. There is a strong spiritual and human quality that the reader will find deeply moving.     

Satir's Formula for Therapeutic Endurance

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Of the many factors thai accounted for Virginia Satir's ability to create change in intransigent couples and families, the sine qua nan may have been her therapeutic endurance (ability to “hang in there” with tough clients). Satir's formula for therapeutic endurance was her constant belief in the intrinsic worth of each individual—the wonderful human being myth—and its corollary thai all people arc capable of changing     

Relating the Couple and the Logos

SUMMARY

With intent to evoke unaccustomed thoughts, two levels of discourse on communication are brought together. The first level focuses on the work of Virginia Satir, especially her placing the abstractions of several psychodynamic mechanisms in the realm of operationalized styles of communication. The second level concerns a Nordic myth which 1 interpret as revealing that the tools of communication are hard won, communication is complex and multi-leveled, and understanding is a numinous event. Examples are given of the deeper meaning strata of several words relevant to couples therapy, reflecting the logos as revealed in mytho-poesis.     

A modified “Parts Party” for couples work

The Parts Party exercise, developed by Virginia Satir for use in a workshop with an audience of at least 10 participants (Satir & Baldwin, 1983), has been modified in order to be applicable to couples therapy in which only the spouses are present. Exact instructions for conducting the game are described and interpretation strategy is illustrated for two case studies.Private Practice in Haifa, Israel.The author gratefully acknowledges the constructive comments of Virginia Satir.